Helping Your Child with Autism

Those who have just heard that their kid has or may have autism spectrum disorder may be overwhelmed with questions and concerns. A diagnosis of autism spectrum disorder (ASD) may be especially distressing for parents who have never imagined their kid to be anything other than healthy and happy. You may be uncertain how to assist your kid or puzzled by differing opinions on therapy. It’s also possible that you’ve heard that ASD is a permanent illness with no cure, leaving you feeling helpless in the face of your child’s diagnosis.

While autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is not something that a person “grows out of,” there are several therapies that may help youngsters learn new skills and get beyond many developmental roadblocks. To help your kid learn, develop, and flourish, there are a variety of resources available, including no-cost early intervention services, in-home behavioral treatment that are often covered through insurance, and school-based programs for children over age 3.

Taking care of oneself is essential while caring for a kid with autism. We know that’s easier said than done, but sometimes a 10 minute “break” with a cup of coffee, reading a chapter in a book, or a 10 minute walk is enough to face a situation with calm. Life is busy and it can feel impossible to “shut off” for 10 minutes, but your child can’t do their best if the adults in their life are running on empty. They need you to take care of yourself so you can take care of them. Create and schedule time to relax and take care of yourself.

Some tips for parents of newly diagnosed children with autism or suspected autism:

Early Therapy

The best thing you can do as a parent of a child diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) or an associated developmental delay is to get them into therapy as soon as possible. We believe in celebrating our children’s differences, but also recognize that most children with autism face significant impairments that can be lessened with early therapy. If you believe something is not right, do not wait to see if your child grows out of it. Speak to your child’s pediatrician if you feel that anything is amiss and don’t delay in getting assistance if your pediatrician is unable/unwilling to help. Local autism support groups are a good place to look for therapists if your pediatrician is unable to help. Some types of therapy are only covered with an autism diagnosis, but some therapies do not require a diagnosis. Do not hold off until you get a formal diagnosis. The sooner children diagnosed with autism spectrum condition begin therapy, the better their prognosis. Research the types of therapy available and choose what fits your child and family best.

Think positively

Finding out your child has autism is devastating for some parents. It is typically an unexpected challenge and most parents have no experience in working with autistic children. Take the time to process your feelings and changed expectations for your child, but also consider that much of what you’ve heard about autism is inaccurate. Kids with autism can love, be affectionate, have friends, and learn. No, this isn’t what you expected, but your child who now has an autism diagnosis is still the same child and they need to know you believe in them, accept them, and love them. Young people on the autism spectrum, like everyone else, need encouragement and to know their parents love them as they are. Acknowledge their positive actions and express gratitude for them.

Boost your child’s confidence

Don’t just generalize your compliments. Tell them what they did well and why you appreciated it. Look for creative methods to praise them, such as providing them with more time to play or a modest award like a sticker.

In addition, cherish your kid for who they are, whether they are on the spectrum or not. Parental love must center on accepting each kid for who they are.

Become an expert on your child

Research your kid until you know all there is to know about them. Learn what causes your child’s difficult or disruptive actions and what motivates them. Is there anything in particular that causes your kid anxiety or fear? Calming? Uncomfortable? Enjoyable? A parent’s ability to help their kid through challenging circumstances increases in proportion to the degree to which they have an understanding of the factors involved.

Accept your child

Learn to love your kid because of his or her differences. Instead of concentrating on your autistic child’s perceived deficits, such how he or she is “different,” try practicing acceptance. Appreciate your kids for who they are, rejoice in even the smallest of accomplishments, and avoid making unfair comparisons. More than anything else, what your kid needs most is to be loved and accepted without conditions.

Never give up

Keeping trying is the only option. The development of autism spectrum disorder cannot be anticipated. Avoid making hasty judgments about your child’s future. Individuals with autism, like everyone else, have a lifetime to learn and improve.

Stick with your child no matter what. Only a parent can help your child better than anyone. Love them, cherish their accomplishments and boost their confidence. If you stay on the right track, your child will thrive.